Mommy Valentine, Pregnancy the Second Time Around

A Mommy Valentine…Pregnancy the Second Time Around

With all the fabulous and strange changes going on in my “pregnant” life right now I wonder how it will all work out, I know it will (only because it always does) but as a pregnant women, working mom, wife, housekeeper, chef etc…I can’t help but feel slight well (lots) of stress. As I reflect on my last pregnancy which was almost six years ago, a lot has changed. Along with the medical advancements and changes which are fabulous for example the new 3/4D ultrasound wow what a miracle to see that babies face with such detail, I found this to be totally moving.

Pregnancy in my opinion has two sides, the good and the blah, my second pregnancy came after much thought, fear and emotional searching for the first pregnancy was a nightmare (mildly put). From the worst results possible on my AFP blood test which proved to be totally wrong of course after I nearly had a breakdown from fear and worry to full bed rest from five months on, a home nurse checking my urine and blood pressure daily and too much more nonsense to write about. For all you ladies reading this, I am not trying to alarm you, this was my story, and through all this I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster. The light at the end of the tunnel did come…with an awesome (comparing to many other stories I’ve heard) labor and delivery experience. Oh by the way to make matters hairier, I was deathly afraid of the hospital, well guess what I conquered that anxiety with the birth of my beautiful, healthy baby. All I can say is I never felt more in control and found this awesome inner strength I never knew I had.

Now almost six years later I find myself pregnant with my second child and having a totally 360 degree experience. Not only was I not extremely nauseated by everything and everyone but I found myself able to cope with the slight discomfort of nausea. I was overseas on vacation when the shock hit, no period, not menopause oh-oh it must have been the bon-voyage party my husband and I had that…well you know the rest. As this second pregnancy progressed I learned the mystery of being a mom for the second time came with new and positive changes. I continued to work and live my daily life without much change, I went through the whole first prenatal visit and blood work uneventfully, the complete opposite of my first experience.
The days turned to weeks to months, at seven months all is well and I’ve realized anything is possible, I really feel OK and there is no drama. The usual pregnancy stuff is part of my life but I’m at peace with my growing belly, my old fears and the expectations of labor. The time between my pregnancy has brought me great wisdom on taking care of myself, listening to my body and intuition and having a positive mental attitude, I believe all these small changes in me brought big changes to how my body accepted being pregnant. So sit back, reflect on what is really important, enjoy your Valentines Day as a tribute to self love and your beautiful miracle, no matter how yucky you may feel, this too shall pass. Enjoy…and Happy Valentines Day!!!